Hurricane Sandy totally destroyed her Breezy Point, New
York home and she lost everything she owned. A roadside bomb in Iraq blew off both his
legs and he lost his mobility. The lingering recession took the middle aged couple’s
jobs, their home, their savings, and forced them to go bankrupt.
No doubt you’ve seen similar stories on TV, read
about them in newspapers and magazines, and most likely you know people who in
the past year have experienced devastating loss. You too may have lost
something this past year. It might have been a major loss, or something as
minor as your car keys, a few golf balls or a tooth or two. But whatever it is you’d
classify as a loss, you can still be grateful.
Gratitude is the ability to focus on what you have, not on what you’ve lost!
The woman on national TV, standing in front of her
devastated Breezy Point home, was so filled with gratitude! She stood strong
and smiled while expressing to the interviewer how grateful she was. Her family
members were all alive, she said. Her neighbors had rescued them from the
rising flood waters and got them to safety. Others were taking care of her now.
“Oh,” she said over and over again, “I have so much to be grateful for!”
Yes, gratitude is your ability to focus on what you
have, not on what you’ve lost!
The soldier with no legs was shown in his
wheelchair throwing a football to his young sons. He too looked into the TV
camera, smiled broadly and expressed sincere gratitude to his fellow Marines
who pulled him out of his blown up hum-vee, to the medics who stopped the
bleeding, and to the doctor who saved his life. He said he was so grateful to
be able to see his wife and kids again and to be there as his boys were growing
up. “I lost my legs, but I still have my throwing arm. I can still be a Dad!”
Yes, gratitude is your ability to focus on what you
have,
not on what you’ve lost!
not on what you’ve lost!
And finally, that middle aged couple talking to a
CNN reporter, spoke of their gratitude for the tiny apartment they now called
home, for the used car a friend loaned them and for the part-time jobs they were
able to find. Although it wasn’t even close to what they used to have, they
both were so grateful.
So how about you?
What do you now have that fills you with gratitude?
What do you now have that fills you with gratitude?
Cicero, the wise Roman philosopher, said in 40
B.C., “Gratitude is not only the greatest of all virtues, but the parent of all
others!” How wise he was, and his words are still
so applicable today.
Here’s what you can do.
1.
Just for the next 30
days, as you’re brushing your teeth (or tooth) in the morning, begin the day by
looking in the mirror and thinking of what you can be grateful for.
2.
Then say out loud … so only
you can hear it, “Today I’m grateful for …”
3.
At the end of 30 days
see how this simple little exercise has made you feel. If it has helped you in
a positive way, keep doing it! If not, then stop the gratitude expressions and
start focusing instead on all the things you’ve lost … and see how that makes
you feel!
Someone I know writes something in her
journal every day that she’s grateful for. Her life is filled with wonderful
things, amazing people and extraordinary experiences. She’s proved to herself
that gratitude isn’t just for Thanksgiving Day. It’s for every day!
You CAN Make it a GRATEFUL day!